by: Jk2003

Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 13:42:12 PM EST

Week two of Weekly Ruminations is here!  I hope everyone had a good week and has lots of good stuff to report (I would also like to hear the bad stuff too).

This week was a smooth one in our house.  The showings continue and we had our first (really bad) offer so we sent them packing.  My only problem this week concerns my growing daughter.  And it isn't her that has the problem it is me.  She has reached the age (5) and intellectual level where I am having trouble figuring out how much to tell her about stuff.  My default reaction is to just lay it all out - don't pull punches and give her the facts when she asks questions.  When her grandmother (my husbands mom) passed away just after Thanksgiving, I did not mince words when discussing death with her.  She went to an open casket wake.  On the way home I asked her if she had any questions.  She just asked "What was that for?".

I explained the best I could and she seemed satisfied.  The point of this is just to ask how far do you all think one should go when explaining complicated and confusing issues with kids.  Again, my gut tells me just to be honest and open but I worry that because she is a worrier that I will lay too much on her.  She is a sensitive and intuitive child and I don't want her to feel too much of the pain that can exist too soon.

Alright.  Thats my issue this week.  What are you guys ruminating on these days?

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Moving (2.00 / 12)
The packing folks just left and the moving people will be here tomorrow.

I'm a very private person and I prefer to be alone, so its a major stressor when people are here, and even worse when they're emptying all of my closets and drawers.

Man I'm weird

The weather here in Dallas is nice at 58 degrees, rain in the forecast for the weekend but if the weather folks are right it'll start after Im done moving.

Hope the folks in the blizzard make out ok!


Republicans only care about Republicans.
Democrats care about the Republic

you are so not weird (2.00 / 12)
i packed myself and everything in our house during our last move.  i will probably do this same this time.  i never liked the idea of people touching my stuff like that.  it is hard enough to see it go on a truck.  good luck with the move.  are you moving far?  
and the alone thing.  i get it.  i totally get it.  with two kids, alone time is precious.  my husband does not seeem to have the need for alone time but man,  i do.  my 5 year old sometimes tells him that he needs to take them away so i can have alone time.  it soothes me to be quiet and alone.  

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for my kids (2.00 / 9)
i try to tell them bits of the info they ask about . . . until they are ready.  

and i try to use facts, and "i feel" kind of statements.  

Every private thought overtaken by Blizzardous ones, unnecessarily (2.00 / 12)
With reasonable anti-hype resources for my weather data, including our own Weather dude, I pretty much know the worse that I might expect, and given our situation, it should not be too bad--we are pretty urban and close enough to main arteries so we will be well dug out immediately.

All important family members are in other cities and beyond my reach

There should be time to ruminate.

And yet, the sense of impendingnesss and of collective responsibility for neighbors keeps me returning to the preparedness file to check if anything has been overlooked.

Meanwhile, my worries are with the thousands of unknowns who were just let out of work at 3:00 and face public transport shutting down at 3:30 and roads closing at 4:00--although this was just announced. Does that counts as a rumination?

i hear you (2.00 / 11)
we live in the chicago burbs.  two years ago right about this time of year i had a 3 week old baby and we got hit by a blizzard.  personally it was lovely.  we kept power, my husband had taken the week off to be home with me and the kids anyway so the timing worked for us.  i don't remember how much snow we ended up getting (2 feet or so i think but i had a not sleeping three week old so it is not clear in my mind).  
i worry about those on the edge anyway.  shelters are sure to be packed to the gills, hopefully there is enough for those that need it.  i worry about the dummmies that try to get out and drive too soon.  that think they just have to go to work.  and i worry about pregnant ladies and sick people who i can only hope can get the help they need if they need it.
i love weather so storms are fascinating to me from afar but living here and going through blizzards and being from oklahoma i also understand the lifechanging and destructive power that can be there too.  
be safe.  
oh, in which blue state do you live?

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jk2003, i left town the day that blizzard arrived (2.00 / 8)
for a two week bike building class in Portland. i remember looking out the window of the airplane and the storm clouds heading for the city went on for miles, i had that uh oh feeling for my wife and co workers. meanwhile in Portland, we had record short sleeve weather and not a day of rain. lucky me!

alone time...i am the unapologetic crown prince of alone time. as an artist i probably need much more than most and luckily my wife does also, so that works out really well.

i was always a little cautious with my daughter, just my nature i guess. she's very inquisitive, sharp too and is never shy about asking questions which i always answer honestly. i'm sure you have as good a handle as anyone what your daughter can absorb.  

time...it seems to move so slowly until that day, when it doesn't.

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A bike builder in Chicago? (2.00 / 7)
You and my dad would get along well.  He is a cyclist with a soft spot for custom made bikes.  
That blizzard was something.  I was up for feedings every three hours of so but he cried between them so I was up all that night.  I remember looking out the window at one point and it was snowing upwards for a while.  
I agree about my knowing what my girl can handle.  Think that my mom worry takes over sometimes.  

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yeah, i understand about the worry. (2.00 / 7)
i was too when she was younger, these days at 12 going on 18 she's teaching me what she can handle.

i mostly restore vintage european steel bikes from the 70's and 80's. this is a pic of a very early Raleigh i converted to single speed.

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i have a pretty big collection, i'll probably do a diary about them sometime soon with better pics.

time...it seems to move so slowly until that day, when it doesn't.

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Can't wait for the diary (2.00 / 6)
I'll forward it to dad.  He will be in love.

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Hey dear o... (2.00 / 4)
Do you still keep in contact with knucklehead? I was wondering why I hadn't seen any of his incredible photos for a while and saw his last comment on the orange on Jan 31 that he was very ill.

It just brought to mind your womderful diary about the wooden dog toy.

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K we were talking via e mail (2.00 / 3)
for a while and then he kinda' stopped. that was a few months ago.
i did send him that carved dog that i found and he sent me the beautiful patch he made to memoralize his friend who passed away.

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thanks for telling me, it's time to send him another e mail.

time...it seems to move so slowly until that day, when it doesn't.

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he is one of the best... (2.00 / 3)
photographers out there!  I'm hoping he's okay.  We've been going through a spate of too much sad news on the blogs.  So it got me worrying when he said he was ill.

thanks, dear o.

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i agree. (2.00 / 2)
he is quite an interesting collector too. he sent me pics where he placed the dog on a shelf filled with things that got me salivating. we shared many of the same interests.

i'll contact him.

time...it seems to move so slowly until that day, when it doesn't.

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Blue State of Massachusetts, Chicago burbs. Done and dusted.... (0.00 / 0)
...although that was no dusting. Our  governor declared a total travel ban that saved us lots of misery and who knows how many lives. Decades later, the memories of 1978 are fresh in minds, with death total of 99, mostly people frozen to death in their cars stalled on highways that were three lane parking lots.

Like weather stories?
Lots of Massachusetts 1978 and comparison to 2013 stories were shared over at Kos within a [successful] citizen action diary and good spirits and civility maintained, despite quite a bit of liberterian trolling against the governor's travel by a person claiming to be from Chicago (btw, the governor is a born Chicagoan)  looks like my attempt to embed without an embed button is not going to work so follow the bread crumbs....to Massachusetts-mall-workers-each-face-500-fine

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Ruminating too much (2.00 / 9)
about my recent psych evaluation and diagnosis. Just posted a diary about the whole experience so I won't go into it here, but I'm ready to move on with life.

Enduring security and lasting peace do not require perpetual war.

Barack Obama 1/21/2013

Read it. Good diary! Thanks for sharing. (2.00 / 8)

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it was a good week here (2.00 / 7)
we have another window put in and we've gone to town to pick up the new dishwasher. My Valentines project is coming along nicely, should be able to finish them up this weekend. Life would be too good except the winds have already picked up this year. When the weather guy talks about windy out here that means sustained winds over 30 mph and they're on for tomorrow again. I'm not from here so I get tired of it before everyone else does.

There's nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.--Thornton Wilder

Where is here? (2.00 / 5)
Sorry, if everyone else knows.  I don't know in what part of the country you reside.

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in far west Texas (2.00 / 1)
a high desert with not a lot of people. We're so far from everything and it can be difficult to appreciate the beauty. I find it quite wonderful but then I don't much care for people in large numbers. The skies are the view out here which is good since there's nothing to get in the way of that view.  

There's nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.--Thornton Wilder

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I used to live in SW OK (2.00 / 2)
I have driven through west texas on the way to NM.  You are right about the sky.  And the wind.

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In a break... (2.00 / 7)
...from near-constant ruminations on upcoming surgery, I went with a friend today to see a wonderful museum exhibition. Got home very tired and sore, but for a few hours I was transported into another world, one of exquisite objects made in the 17th and 18th centuries. My body is worn out, but my spirit is rejuvenated by the sight of so much beauty.

Here's a link to a review of the show, with a slideshow (that doesn't do half justice to the glorious objects depicted).

As for the surgery, it's to be a brand-new hip. Just two-and-a-half weeks until I go in to be all fixed up. :-)

There are, in every age, new errors to be rectified, and new prejudices to be opposed. ~Samuel Johnson (1709-1784)

One of my favorite clients (2.00 / 7)
Had a hip replaced.  She was so happy with the results and she was an inch taller due to the way her bum hip had forced her to stand.  I know it is daunting but there is so much to look forward to once it is over!
Jealous of your day at the museum.  Glad you had a good time.

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