Evolving, Thread By Thread

by: cassandracarolina

Wed Feb 27, 2013 at 11:49:16 AM EST



There comes a time in the life of many or us realize that we must evolve in order to survive and thrive in the days, months, and years ahead. The skills and coping mechanisms that propelled  us to our present crossroads will not suffice for the rigors of the road ahead. Ideally, we realize this before someone beats us upside the head with our deficiencies, and advises us to evolve, now, or else. With the benefit of time, we enjoy the luxury of introspection and self-direction.

For some of us, this realization comes in childhood when we begin to understand that the world for which our parents prepared us is a much nicer and simpler place than the world we actually inhabit. My parents, for example, felt that most challenges in life could be overcome by intellect and critical thinking, grounded in a solid appreciation of music, literature, and art.

All that's of very little use, however, when the schoolyard bully extorts your milk money, day after day, or when the high-school bully demands that you orient your exam paper so that they can cheat off it. It's also of little use when the demons of depression take hold of your youthful spirit and fill you with suicidal thoughts.

When we're old enough to see where our life is headed, we're also old enough to begin our own preparations. Under the critical eye of a strict and controlling parent, however, we learn to be circumspect in our evolution. One by one, we pull the threads from the tapestry woven by our parents and teachers, replacing it with more utilitarian or decorative that better suits our character and our destiny.

Over time, the entire tapestry evolves to something vastly different. On any given day, though, there's little evidence of any change at all. Our machinations go undiscovered. Yet we've slipped our collars, shaken the dust out of our fur, and left that back yard far behind. We're off on our own now, and ready for the scary world out there.

In my case, the evolution was from book smarts to street smarts, from sadness and fear to wit and grit, from follower to leader. It has taken  quite a long time, half a century so far. admittedly not long in geologic time, but certainly a slow transition in human time. I'm still a work in progress...  I hope. I'm still learning how to be a grandparent, a business owner, a southerner, and a retiree.

I'm grateful to whatever people and forces sparked my desire to make the changes that have brought me this far inspired me to continue the journey of self actualization. If a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, surely we owe some credit to anyone who helped us to take that step.

 

cassandracarolina :: Evolving, Thread By Thread
It's not only people who have to evolve.  Organizations need to examine themselves with this same critical eye to ensure that their mission and methods will enable them to succeed.
One needn't look far to see organizations that have lost their way or fallen from grace, often as a result of clinging to the game-plans of the past. The GOP is a classic example.

Although I was raised by Progressives with strong Democratic voting and activism tendencies, I grew up believing that Republicans were still good people who happened to hold other beliefs than "we" did. A friend, neighbor, colleague , or family member could vote Republican without fear of being shunned or ostracized.

Somewhere along the line, probably as the threads of America's tapestry were being pulled out and replaced as a result of our changing demographics, the GOP bus took its first wrong turn. Every mile it's driven since then has been a doubling down of that wrong turn. Like billionaire Sheldon Adelson, throwing more millions into a failed candidate "investment" is the only approach the GOP seems capable of understanding. It's not working.

Personal change begins with introspection and honest analysis. That's hard enough to do on person at a time. Getting a large, amorphous mass that is the GOP to embark on a journey of introspection is a virtual impossibility.

It's little wonder that the GOP clings to Creationism over evolution. Evolution offers the possibility of continuous improvement. Creationism tells its adherants "you're perfect the way you are! Don't change a thing!". Lulled into a false sense of security (or as I like to say "delusions of adequacy") by this saccharine messaging, there's little reason for those who identify with the GOP to effect any real change. If they double down on their bet, surely they'll win the next time around.

The current GOPer-on-GOPer animosity that's breaking out like springtime storms is one sign that anything is better than looking inwards. There's nothing wrong with the party, some believe, it's just your wing of the party that's the problem. If we could just jettison you guys, we'd get the party back on track.

If you've ever tried suppressing part of your personality as an individual, you know it's an energy-draining proposition. You have to be on guard every waking moment to ensure that your real self remains locked away lest someone see what a fraud you've been. Now try suppressing part of a vast, poorly aligned organization. It's not a pretty sight.

Even those who've courageously stepped up and spoken out for some GOP introspection and evolution to meet the challenges of tomorrow  are met with scorn. "No!!" the others cry. "We're fine the way we are! We're just misunderstood!" The pesky voters, though, can see right through the party's blatant fraud, and they're not buying it. The GOP establishment - and the many warring factions can only fool some of the people some of the time. Mathematics - never their strong suit - is not on their side. The world is evolving, with or without the dinosaurs.

While we can't do much about this situation (other than enjoying some popcorn with our schadenfreude), we can take some personal lessons from the GOP's slow-motion implosion. There but for the grace of [insert name of deity or belief system of your choice] go any one of us.

Let's make sure that we're using every bit of our intelligence and instinct to continue our personal evolution, thread by thread. We're wily little mammals. Let's make the most of it.  

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Tips for personal evolution... (2.00 / 14)
Perhaps if we all embodied woozle traits, we wouldn't need to evolve at all...

Whippet tapestry

I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.


-- Oscar Wilde


Timely post. After I said I needed to get ready for class and choir I (2.00 / 9)
got testy because what I really wanted to do was just play for today.  So that's what I'm doing... nothing dutiful, just playing.  Feels good too!

"Pin your money to your girdle and don't talk to strangers."  My Grandmom's advice when I went away to school.  I don't wear a girdle and have never met a stranger.  Sorry Grandmom!

Nannyboz, "playing" is an essential element of our lives (2.00 / 9)
Even if it's discouraged by authority figures. It's never too late to have a happy childhood! Take your inner child by the hand and have a fun day!  

I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.


-- Oscar Wilde


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My day has been goofy. After the herd check in diary where I (2.00 / 9)
couldn't post pics from Photobucket on my iPad I decided to use my computer and put up my little pootie family diary.  Started it, the phone rang, my best friend needed to talk about her mom's health, for an hour.  Because I don't like to interrupt for call waiting unless it's an emergency I missed a call I was waiting for and had to return that.  Then my elderly mom called and wanted me to come over because she made blueberry muffins and she just knew my hubby and I would enjoy them for breakfast tomorrow.  She was in shock that I wasn't going to do that today, would come by tomorrow.  Mom and I have had a few talks about her agenda not always being mine but I digress.
Finally I sat down and while I'll save you from the details it took me two hours to get Photobucket to work.  At this point I was pulling my hair out in bloody clumps.  Finally did my little post and as I went to get ready for class and choir I said nope, not what suits me today and planted my feet.  The rest of the day is mine to play with.

"Pin your money to your girdle and don't talk to strangers."  My Grandmom's advice when I went away to school.  I don't wear a girdle and have never met a stranger.  Sorry Grandmom!

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Love this (2.00 / 9)
It's little wonder that the GOP clings to Creationism over evolution. Evolution offers the possibility of continuous improvement. Creationism tells its adherants "you're perfect the way you are! Don't change a thing!". Lulled into a false sense of security (or as I like to say "delusions of adequacy") by this saccharine messaging, there's little reason for those who identify with the GOP to effect any real change. If they double down on their bet, surely they'll win the next time around.

Can extinction be far behind?


Well, Portlaw, extinction for the GOPasaurs is taking (2.00 / 9)
WAY too long. By all rights, they should be well on the way out the door! I can only hope that their internecine warfare will hasten their demise.  

I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.


-- Oscar Wilde


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Looks like any time now the Voting Rights Act, or article 5 of it, (2.00 / 7)
will be extinct.  Jeebus.

"Pin your money to your girdle and don't talk to strangers."  My Grandmom's advice when I went away to school.  I don't wear a girdle and have never met a stranger.  Sorry Grandmom!

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not so quick (2.00 / 6)
the oral arguments went horribly for the administration on the ACA yet the ruling fairly comported with the Constitution. I think it's going to be hard for the Court to overlook that the D C Circuit Court ruled just last year that the Texas Lege re-districted with a deliberate intent to discriminate against minorities. That ruling was required under Section 5 of the VRA, the part in contention today. If these states are still acting to dsicriminate despite the VRA it does not take imagination to understand what they would do if freed of contraints to act within Constitutional bounds. I was heartened that Roberts cared more about his legacy (and hopefully the actual Constitution) than his sponsors once, it may not have been a fluke.

There's nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.--Thornton Wilder

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Section 5, thank you, I said it incorrectly. I sure hope you're right! (2.00 / 6)
You make a solid case as opposed to my negative take.  Just reading Scalia's sarcastic comments and Kennedy's somewhat ambiguous ones coupled with Thomas' position a few years go has left me in a mindset that's less than positive.  I so hope your approach is the one that works out.

"Pin your money to your girdle and don't talk to strangers."  My Grandmom's advice when I went away to school.  I don't wear a girdle and have never met a stranger.  Sorry Grandmom!

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oh it's one of those (2.00 / 5)
uncoonscious habits they drill into you in law school. You don't mean to correct people but you have to hear it correctly to feel comfortable. I was kidding someone recently that I've been retired for a couple of years so I expect to be casting a reflection in mirrors soon.

There's nothing like eavesdropping to show you that the world outside your head is different from the world inside your head.--Thornton Wilder

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What exactly is Article 5 of the Voting Rights Act? (2.00 / 8)
We certainly still need it here in Virginia.  The lines were so long last November! It was ridiculous.  And my 82-year-old husband had to stand for 45 minutes because our surname is way down the alphabet, while all the young, sprightly "A through E's" rushed past him.

Next time I'll bloody well bring a folding chair for him.  He should not have been made to stand for so long.


I may have referred to it incorrectly but it's the part that causes 7 (2.00 / 6)
states and parts of 2 others, Southern, to have to get permission from the DOJ before altering voting laws in any way in their states due to past Jim Crow laws.  The state of Alabama is challenging that in the Supreme Court, the case was heard today.  There is every likelihood that will be ruled unconstitutional allowing those states to make their own laws.  When you consider what went on last fall at polling places things could get far worse for minorities.

"Pin your money to your girdle and don't talk to strangers."  My Grandmom's advice when I went away to school.  I don't wear a girdle and have never met a stranger.  Sorry Grandmom!

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This is depressing. eom (2.00 / 5)


CC, thank you (2.00 / 4)
i'm continuously surprised and delighted by your writing, even though i know the consistently outstanding quality.  this is one of your very best, in my opinion.  

Twitter Doesn't Make You Martin Luther King


Why, thank you, Avila (2.00 / 5)
That's very nice to hear, and I am honored! I am enjoying writing here at the purple pasture where I can take more time for thoughtful consideration rather than trying to slip my diaries into the orange firehose and see them splattered across the landscape. Hopefully I can contrinue to keep things interesting!  

I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.


-- Oscar Wilde


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CC i've waited to comment because (2.00 / 4)
i've wanted too think on a theory i have that you've touched on in this diary. it involves trauma, behavior, introspection and evolution in our personal lives and how this might explain the current collective behavior we now see in the Republican party.

i've experienced my fair share of trauma in my life, some self inflicted, most not. the mistreatment from my dad is the example i'll use because
it seems to parallel most closely with what is happening today within the Republican party. without a proper understanding of the effects on my psyche (introspection), i spent decades making others pay for mistakes they didn't make, unresolved personal issues have a way of asserting themselves where they don't belong, irrational, angry and innappropriate responses are often a byproduct of those unresolved issues.

the parallel i see is the Republican trauma of Obama being reelected, it's clear that this came as quite a shock and we only have to remember Rove's irrational meltdown on election night as proof. he was not alone, Romney and his staff couldn't believe it either.

unfortunately the R's spent precious little time questioning (introspection) the 'why of what happened' in 2012 and instead are lashing out, blaming everyone else for their mistakes, even going so far to now blaming each other. their collective behavior is irrational, picking political fights they can't win, spouting hateful angry statements that are not grounded in reality.

there is no evelution occuring whatsoever, they are stuck, emotionally and politically spinning their collective wheels in an attempt to 'move forward' and away from the painful truth. those of us who have spent time questioning, facing difficult and often painful questions and then taking remedial steps to reconcile our issues, know this will get them nowhere. the proof is being played out on a national stage for all of us to witness and for the country to suffer the consequences.

Jindal was right, 'they can't continue to be the party of the stupid', what he said was too close to the painful truth and unfortunately is being ignored.  

time...it seems to move so slowly until that day, when it doesn't.


Very well stated, dear occupant (2.00 / 2)
As individuals, it's much easier for us to do a mid-course correction in our lives that in would be for a large organization that has become factionalized. They're still in the "denial" phase, while we as individuals have been able to move through acceptance into some sort of new personal world order. Thankfully!  

I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train.


-- Oscar Wilde


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